Friday, January 25, 2013

sharing a peek into the book in the process...just a peek



Forward
I am not quite certain when or where the ride shifted leading me to this very moment of self- exploration.  All I do know is that it did, and the road to now has been an incredible and at many times, scary journey.  There were noticeable signposts along the way that were immediately recognizable:  my mother and best friend losing her life to Amyotrophic Lateral Sclerosis (ALS), my marriage falling apart, a child in crisis, and my home going into foreclosure.  These were the landslides that burned themselves into my consciousness.  And yet, these were not the catalysts to my self discovery.  They were the byproduct of change.  They were the jump in with both feet blindfolded opportunities to growth.  The true catalysts were much more subtle and less recognizable from the vantage point of my limited view, until I began the incredible process of understanding.

Looking back from where I am now, the fog is beginning to life, no longer clouding my view behind a murky haze of awareness.  The veil parts, the curtain opens and the view opens up before me miraculously.  Why now?  Because I am ready for it.  From here I can tell you the view of the horizon is breath-taking. 

Digging Deep is about the journey of self-discovery.  Somewhere in the process we must dig down, exposing the roots that hold us firmly where we are in order to move to another place.  Maybe, just maybe, the place where we are meant to be.  I strongly believe that in order to really understand and heal, we have to take everything back to the root of its growth, back to the moment of its seeding.  Everything happens for a reason.  There are no coincidences.  I believe that with my whole soul.  Many are learning now that even physical ailments and disease have underlying causes and lessons within them.  We can use lotions, potions and pills to alleviate the discomfort and symptoms, but these things do not cure the malady.  They are merely band- aids that make it all manageable.  For a while.  Eventually the Band-Aid falls off, leaving us right back where we started.  We can either replace the Band-Aids or we can heal the wound or the sickness.

If we truly want to heal and grow, we need to put on our archeologist hat and begin to dig in the dirt.  Do you remember digging in the dirt when you were a child?  For me, it was a time of exploration and fun.  The messier the better!  When I played in the dirt, or better yet, the mud, it was exhilarating.  My thoughts wandered to what I would find, how would it feel, and I didn’t care one bit how messy I got doing it!  Where did that childhood excitement for exploration go?  It got buried in the avalanche of life situations and growing up.  Did you ever dig around the exposed roots of a tree or move the dirt with your hands exploring just where they went?  I could sit forever under a tree doing just that.  Little did I know someday I would embark on a similar mission of a more spiritual nature.  Trees and their roots have so much they can teach us if we can only begin to move the dirt from around them, exposing their lessons that lie below the surface of what we perceive as solid ground.

I can’t promise you that it will always be easy or that you won’t bang up your knuckles, here and there.  What I can promise you from personal experience is that it will be worth it.  It will open your eyes to miracles that were previously hidden from view.  I hope you will find something to inspire you within these pages.  Come sit with me under the tree for a while.  Bring your child-like curiosity and some digging tools.  Every journal begins with a single step and every treasure needs to be unearthed and dusted off in order to see its beauty and worth.  Welcome my friends, to discovery. 


On this frigid morning I feel the desire to write and dedicate this to an amazingly beautiful friend of mine, for within her journey there is such profound beauty and insight that I am inspired daily to reach for the stars and become a better me than I was the day before.  Kim, for you lady angel, with gratitude for the incredibly bright light and love you shine forth for others to warm their souls in.    

In our everyday lives we encounter so many people.  All can shine light in our darkened corners if we can step back and look from an different perspective.  Some yes, we need to truly work at not taking things personally and seeing what they bring to our table for learning about ourselves.  Some seemingly only bring negativity and drama, and yet, their is still beautiful lessons wrapped up in those people when we face the feelings and situations they present us within OURSELVES.  And still some blaze into our awareness and lives with a light that shines so brightly that there are times it is nearly blinding.  This morning I write in tribute to one such as this.  

Not so long ago I was blessed with the friendship of this beautiful soul who with her words, shares love and inspiration so completely that I quite literally look forward to her shares for the beauty and encouragement I find there.  Very quickly my soul recognized her as a kindred spirit and earth Angel who came to shine her light bright for all to see and to be positively affected.  And shine she does.  I speak often of being a lighthouse and what that means in a world where darkness is more readily recognized and embraced.  For me, and from what I have seen, this dear lady is one of the grandest brightest lighthouses I have had the pleasure of guiding me past rocky shores.

Something that occurred last night made me very sad.  Someone, upset this beacon of light with admonishments of continuing her present course in a sense, holds her back, when in fact it does exactly the opposite, propels her forward! My first thought was to encourage her as much as I could and still give the other person the benefit of trying to help.  I am not certain my wording conveyed my thoughts as well as they could have in a rush to run to her side in support and that has haunted me all night.  Now my thoughts go not only to wanting to shine an equal light on her amazing growth equal to that which she has done for mine, but I also sit and contemplate the need of some to negate other's growth with words and thoughts not carefully chosen.  Oh I know the mechanics and the reasons, hell I TEACH it!  still, it saddens my heart so deeply when I see it happening and am ineffectual in being able to smooth the journey for those who are doing the work to grow, change and share their story so others may benefit.  

Oh dear people, please give thought to your words and how they may hurt others.  Before you speak, examine your motive in the words you hang on another's soul.  There is enough negativity in this world and it is beyond time to look within instead of projecting outward.  The thoughts you share carry energy and weight.  Often times they are heavier than lead blocks.  Everyone is on their own journey, bares their own cross so to speak, and many that some carry would bring the average person to their knees.  

My heart is heavy and I hope deeply that these words can convey how profoundly this lady has affected me and convey my gratitude for her journey and brave sharing of her truth.  So dear lady to you I wish to say, do not let anyone rain their personal negativity on your beautiful soul and the light you share so freely and lovingly.  You are true to yourself and no one has the right to purge their personal stories on your heart.  You INSPIRE ME.  For that there are no words that even come close to expressing what that means to me in a world where I have struggled my whole life, only to grow to a seemingly parallel path in so many ways over the past 2 years.  I am blessed to call you friend.  Be true to you and what other people think is their issue not yours.  And I promise to stand by you and unconditional support and love you along your journey.  It is all I can give, and I give it freely.    You see, your light shines blindingly on me, illumining my path merely by you shining light on yours.  You are a teacher and a sage and for you, I am thankful.  


Thursday, November 22, 2012



I sit here alone this evening.  Alone with my leftovers, alone with my furry friends, and alone with my thoughts.  The children are off with their Dad, Ian has gone home or rather to work then home and David is visiting with his girlfriend for awhile.  In the past 2 days so much has been rolling through my mind and heart and well, I think it is time to put it into words :)

During our Thanksgiving dinner yesterday, I felt like I was transported to a place of wonder.  As I looked around my table, everyone eating occasionally in silence and at other times chattering happily, a deep warmth embraced my soul.  I looked one by one at all the beautiful faces around my table, taking in everything about them.  I Love watching them enjoy the food and the look of contentment on their faces...each and everyone of them, nearly brought me to tears.  It felt so good.  It is a feeling I would wrap and hand to them all every day of their life if I was able.  I was filled with so much love for them all that I found it hard to breathe, like my chest was already way too full of love and happiness to take in any air.

Today as I drove to take the kids to meet their father, I kept looking at the houses celebrating Thanksgiving as a family with lots of cars in the yards.  There are times that my heart is so sad that I am unable to give that same gift to my children.  Oh occasionally we have family visit and it is wonderful, but what I am talking about is what I grew up with, and that others have....the gift of a large families that celebrate this days together and live near each other.  My memories take me to my younger years, when my grandparent's children's families all converged in their trailer for Sunday dinner's and for holiday dinners.  The sight of long tables lined end to end loaded with food and smiling faces of all those I love was the highlight of my childhood.  The smell of fresh baked goodies and the sound of talking and laughter filled the air.  To say those were my favorite times growing up is a major understatement.  After family dinners everyone gathered in the living room as my aunts and Uncles got out their guitars and we all sang all our favorite songs. I never felt alone or unloved or valued.  Not once.  EVER.

I always dreamed of raising my children with that same beautiful gift, but life as it often does, alters dreams sometimes.  That doesn't mean that they are any less beautiful, just that they are different than the moving picture I had in my mind of what family would be like for them.  Instead of family gatherings being surrounded by visiting branches of the tree, largely it is the children and I.  I have no complaints but today it saddened me that they will never know what that was like.  We have surrendered many very special people to the Angel Realm and even those who are still present have removed themselves from our lives.  Further thought brought me to the difficult (but ridiculously rewarding) task of raising 4 children mostly solo.  It saddens me that they are not surrounded and treasured by their grandparents (some here some not) and that when times are tough there is no back up.  And yet, there are VERY few things I would trade of my years with my children.

I am so thankful, not just today, but everyday.  Today I share my gratitude list and if I could stand at the top of the mountains and yell these things for the world to hear, I would.  I am thankful for:

David, Nathalie, Michael and Robert Rossignol.  You are truly the brightest beacons in my life.  I am proud of you all for the amazing people you are.  I am thankful that I still have a home when many do not, food when many are starving, and heat when too many are cold.

For family that I DO still have even though I see them very little, and for the ones who DIDN'T walk away.  For those we have loved and lost:  Momma, Mike, Robert, Grammy, Grampy, Nannan, Bampa, Jeannette.  WE carry you with us with every beat of our hearts.

For friends who I may not get to see too often but who are there when I need a boost.

For the beautiful gift of connecting with Spirit and helping others in different ways.  For the beautiful angels I have worked with, some still living, others not.  They have each and every one inspired me and given me gifts they never even realized.

For reconnecting with Aunt Patti, Uncle Buzzy and Aunt Kathy and Lisa who I have missed immeasurably over the years.

I am thankful for the beautiful friends I have made who I haven't met in person yet but would in a heartbeat.  The beauty they share so selflessly with me swells my heart.

I am thankful, for life.  Everyday, even when the waves roll and topple me and nearly extinguish the flame that burns inside of me, because it means I am still alive and blessed with new beginnings and opportunities to grow, learn and love.  If you are reading this (even if you aren't), know that I am grateful for you.

Life is good.  It hasn't always been fair or especially kind to me but I LOVE it and I wouldn't trade any of this for anything....ever.




Wednesday, September 26, 2012

fully ready to jump ship ,,,,and soar

My story is by no means unique.  So many travel this road and I know in writing about my journey and learning I have the opportunity to learn and maybe shine a light in a dark place other's are walking in.  Atleast that is my dream.

I am in a place right now where I am ready to hand it all over to someone way more experienced and qualified.  In no way do I mean this negatively.  Oh no exactly the opposite!  But before I or anyone can do that we must reach a place of being done...done with the struggle, done with trying to make it work and figure it all out.  A virtual leaping point or diving board is where I stand, toes hanging over the edge, taking deep breaths and releasing the fear of the leap.

With that in mind, I do not share this leg of my journey for sympathy or pity.  I share it as a lesson in letting go of what no longer serves us and that I can ....YOU CAN, change the course and find softer footing.

Where I arrived at this afternoon is a place of being unwilling to settle any longer...not for one more second!  No longer will I accept or settle for living in a place that at some point will be yanked out from under me, or robbing Peter to pay Paul.  No longer do I accept that I have been in this financial hell because I am supposed to be and believing that is just something I have to "deal with."  I am no longer willing to walk with my chin to my chest in resigned disgrace at having to walk into the grocery store with $10 to buy a bag of potatoes and a bottle of laundry detergent to feed my family and wash towels for them to use. NOR am I willing to look at other's full shopping carts and wish I was able to fill mine full well knowing that I cannot.  I will no longer believe that I am unworthy of financial security or that I somehow don't deserve to make a living doing what I love and am meant to do instead of working 3 jobs just to barely pay the bills and put food on the table exhausted and stressed every evening.

Within the larger picture as the realizations and thoughts hit me, is that It is my Divine right to have my needs provided for without worrying, stressing, crying, panicking and continually going without and sacrificing.

What I am WILLING to do is release believing that this is just my lot in life, that I have always done it so it's no big deal.  I am willing to change my core beliefs and along with them how I respond to these situations.  I can choose to release it to the Universe and know that I will be brought exactly what is right for me, that will provide the peace I need to continue to focus on service and helping other's learn these lessons too in their own journeys.  Today.....I let go.  I am done feeling this way and I embrace the gift of handing it all over to my Higher Power, without resistance and expectation of the outcome or needing to know the way it will be changed.

How many are now so ready to let go of all the things that they believe or suffer through and instead, believe they are here for joy, peace and far greater things?  For me I know the answer, for others I ask....are you ready?  REALLY REALLY READY?  Time to truly let go of what no longer is serving us my friends, no matter what those "things" may be.  I offer my hand to you to hold as you let it go and dance forward.  <3

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Autumn whisperings

Crisp autumn mornings
Cold starry nights
trees paint the landscape
with breath-taking sights

Nature takes a  deep breath
there's a whisper on the breeze
bask in the beauty
before winter's heavy freeze

Walk in the sunshine
breathe in the air
there's nothing quite like
the fragrant autumn air.

Feeling nature's cold fingers this morning as I went about my morning brought a bittersweet feeling that washed over my spirit and reminded me to take in each sight....each quickly changing leaf.  Vermont in the fall brings to mind the smell of fallen leaves, cool air and warm sunshine.  This time of year always paints a miraculous scene in my minds eye as well as my physical view.  What beauty and inspiration nature brings us.  Sweetness comes in waves of color and the coolness of the wind, shortly followed by the bitter feel of winter's icy fingers.  I am reminded that every season is a gift and has beauty and wonder, even when a particular season is greeted with dread.  For me, winter is that harbinger of nature.  I don't like it and I don't pretend to.  I have said it a million times and will most likely say it a million more:  I love fall but hate what comes next.  I was born in the winter and one would think that would mean I would enjoy it more.  that is not the case, but what I do enjoy is the smell of autumn.  There is nothing like it for me and no words I can use to accurately describe it.  There is a crispness to it and for me it not only fills my senses but creates paintings in my mind of change.  Autumn is a time of year like no other.  Nature begins to slow her breath and heartbeat in preparation for Her long winter's slumber.  It is a time of "rearranging Her winter closet and wardrobe," just as we physically do.  The smell of woodsmoke begins to permeate the air as we begin to hunker down for what comes next, and out of the kitchen comes the smell of comfort foods like Stews and fall baking. 

Soon the smoke from the chimneys will snake across the sky and the leaves willfall to the ground, leaving the closet bare.  But for right NOW,  I will breathe in the aroma and sights surrounding me and let the colors of Earth's tapestry emblazen my soul.




Thursday, September 20, 2012

Some days are easier than others.....This may not be one of them.

After awaking at 3:53 and laying there with my mind racing and ending up crying from frustration and mental exhaustion I decided to just get up.  Now, the thing is that I was so excited last night knowing I would once again get a peaceful restful night's sleep because I had backup here and would not need to worry for once.  I needed it.  I didn't get it.  Too many things up in the air and needing figuring out or intervention....too many worries and stresses.  So up I am and decided to write.

This is one of those instances where it all builds up and releases like a damn bursting open and flooding a whole town.  Eventually it has to and my eventually is apparently this morning.  The water first swells up behind the dam walls, then begins to wash over it as the water level rises, cracks begin to snake along the damn wall and then with a mighty roar the whole dam crumbles and the watery torment rages forward.  Yup that describes how it all began this morning and still....I feel like I am only half way in that scenario..I cried some but I am still trying to plug the holes in the damn with my fingers and toes as it tries to pour out a different location than I can possible plug.  Why am I fighting it and turning the faucet off?  Because I don't want to lost it completely and end up with my face looking like a bloated tomato for the whole world to see today.  I know it's not  GREAT reason but it's what I've got.

This is exactly why I am writing my book you see.  If everything I go through, or have gone through can help even one person to turn it around, or atleast find a fresher perpective then I would be so amazingly happy.  It is when you honestly pray for no one else to experience your experiences, or fall under the avalanche that you can most affect a shift on others I believe.  How can you teach, help, or understand something if you haven't truly witnessed it first hand, up close and way too personally?  I don't think you can.  Can I help someone see the light at the end of the tunnel in a situation similar to :someone you care about severely depressed and hurting, home and finance up in the air or in the crapper, job not working out and actually causing way MORE Stress than it is helping, having less than ZERO help and family around and going it completely alone and a thousand other things added on top of that that I won't even write about?  Dear God I hope so.  I wouldn't wish any of this on anyone.  And knowing how far i HAVE come certainly keeps me moving forward.   

Well my alarm will be going off in 6 minutes, and since I didn't alert it to the fact that it was not needed this morning I will go turn it off so it doesn't wake me up some company before they need to get up.  I don't think my youngest Angel would much appreciate the early morning bugle call.  Blessed day dear Ones, my thoughts and prayers are with you as I pick through this maze one day at a time and seek to grow and share that with others <3

Monday, August 20, 2012

Dear God

Dear God,

I'm tired today.  Really really tired today.  The road has been pretty rocky and rough for awhile now and I am feeling a bit worn out.  The struts are shot and the shocks are gone and I am pushing on the brakes but they just go to the floor.  But it's ok, I can't complain.  Within the rough roads I have found some real jewels and beautiful views.  I have made some friends and learned alot...about the journey, the landscape and the weather.

What I really want to say is Thank you.  Nothing more, except maybe the brakes could use a look when you get a chance so maybe I could slow down abit and take in the view here and there without it all whizzing by me.  What I am thankful for is that no matter what potholes I hit I still get to help people and that is a gift.  I know you send some people to intercept my path and I stop whenever I can and share what you've taught me.  I know that I am not alone as I ride along, (oh psssst, my map seems abit outdated and is missing clear lines for me to follow).  Maybe I just need new glasses so i can read it better.  Anyway, the other day a beautiful lady told me she saw an angel hugging me while I was helping another.  Now, I know they are always around me and that is why I have gotten through the washed out roads the way I did, but Thank you for the reminder that there are some who can share what they see with me and give me the assurance that they are still there.  It is pretty comforting so without asking for anything, I just wanted to say Thank you, and that I know you are near too.  I love you and I am glad you love me enough to let me get lost here and there and hit some bumps.  Pretty incredible really, because I have that fear of getting lost, but I always seem to find my way back onto my path.

Love, Me